It’s okay to Not be okay

Source: The AVR Method by Anusha VR

Morning light slowly creeps up to your eyes,
Involuntarily closing them shut, indifferent you remain.
The phone keeps ringing on the bedside table,
The slight persistent buzzing noise irritates you.
Pulling the blanket over your face, you guard away the sun.

Disinterested, exhausted, leave me alone, you say.
But desperate and lonely, help me please, you meant.
At the back of your mind, I’m a burden, I’m useless…
Screams of guilt and shame hound you alive, again and again.
Exhausted, there’s no place to hide.
Nowhere to go, to escape that wretched voice.

It takes awhile getting used to that self-loathing.
I know, it’s a constant inner struggle.
It takes even longer to nurture a voice of self-love.
Such a fragile power, the power of love.
Despite every effort, it seems pointless, all in vain.
Don’t tell anyone, the voice keeps repeating,
                   And yet,
Don’t listen, ask for help, tiny splinters of your broken heart still insists.
She whispers to you, almost inaudible.
A faint staccato rising softly in the distance.

Let the emotions take you on a spiral,
Feel the pain, cry out loud if you need to,
It’s okay to not be okay, you’re not alone.
It’s okay to need help, you’re not weak.
It’s okay to stop to take a break when you are tired.
It’s okay to tell people you’re depressed.


Trust me, we want to know, I do.
We want to be there for you, it’s true.
If you would only let us see you,
Please come out and show the world your pain.
Tell us where it hurts and how much.
For there is hope in acceptance,
There is courage in confession.
When you step out of the shadow, you’ll see
Myriads of people lined up around you, just like you and me.
Waiting to be seen and heard once again.

If the voice inside our heads become intolerable,
Together we will hold hands and rail against it all night.
If the voice persuades us to keep quiet,
Break the silence we shall, for it’s a trap.
You and I both know, this ends today.
Had enough of the tyrant’s whims, haven’t we?
We don’t want to remain this way, no more.
No longer will we stay unheard, invisible.
We will shout in one voice, louder than the cloud of gloom.
It’s not easy, I know. But we are in it together.
All we ever want is to be hugged and loved.
Is that a lot to ask for? Not anymore, no.
There is no shame in asking for love and understanding.

For it’s okay to not be okay,
None of us are really ever okay.
And that’s alright too, for it makes us who we are, you know.
To not be okay is to break the norm, and
Who doesn’t know how diversity brings beauty.

Let us give others a chance,
Instead of pushing them away,
Let us reach out and meet them halfway.
For it is okay to be not okay.
But it is not okay to suffer alone, my friend.
Because you’re not alone, you’ll see,
As soon as you step out of your own shadow.
I’m here, we’re all here, waiting to hear you speak.
So talk to us friend, whenever you are ready.
You know we are right here, waiting for you.


This poem has been previously published on the Bridge Blog on September 17, 2020. Check out the link to read more about the importance of mental health awareness. Hope starts as a little seed

35 thoughts on “It’s okay to Not be okay

  1. Good day,

    The horrors
    the terrible
    fright

    the cold
    of loneliness
    the abandonment

    the desire
    the endless, endless desire
    the unattainable peace
    with themselves

    or through
    to find others
    all darkness
    all darkness
    all disease
    all distress
    on the way
    by the
    own life
    endure

    sometimes
    goes a breeze
    of flowers
    by the
    broken
    yellowed window glass

    kind regards
    Hans

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  2. This is so beautiful and inspiring. It definitely is okay to not be okay, and realizing that is the first step to getting better. Love this so much. Hope you’re doing well, friend πŸ–€

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  3. I completely agree with your words and absolutely it’s okay not be okay sometimes. But I also understand that many are mislead by this feeling, so they just tend to go ahead with it and stay low all the time.
    And of course we all kind of loosely throw the word ‘depression’ around for momentarily sadness. So it’s okay not to be okay but it’s also okay to understand that you’re enough for yourself, that you can recover and come out strong out of that feeling. That builds character.
    Then there’s religion and god which I won’t touch base on but to each his/her own.

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    • Yeah, that’s important because people tend to have this association that being not okay is not nice and hence there is a stigma around it. When you ask someone how they are feeling, they would rather lie than admit they are not doing okay. Depression is a mental illness which is completely a different issue altogether, but I do believe if being not okay is normalized even those with mental illnesses would find it easier to open up about their problems and hence seek the help or support they might need.
      Thanks for your insights! Really appreciate it β˜ΊπŸ–€πŸ–€

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  4. Love this! the best thing that we can do for others is to be there for them ❀
    p.s. there's a movie on netflix with the same name (its okay to not be okay) and it covers many mental health issues. I loved watching that movie; you should check it out ❀

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  5. Beautiful and touching poetry. I feel more loved as I read this and it’s like things on my heart that I’ve wanted to say are now embraced. So many parts of love and life can feel like blessings and curses, angels vs. demons, spirited away vs. haunted. I love how you explore so many internal thoughts while weaving them with sensory details like β€œsplinters” to create this truly felt resonance.

    Thanks for your words – they are healing ones : )

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